Ok so what is with all the hate on teen pregnancy?

[luvangelmusicbaby]

I here just about everyday how ignorant young teens are for getting pregnant & having sex etc. Who is to tell a person when they should fall in love and have children? People say "oh the father wont be there for you," but I see grown adults having sex, getting pregnant and they are spousless. So if you are young or not why does that matter? It happens to everyone. Just because you are young doesn't mean you can't take care of child. Teens have sex all the time and they don't end up pregnant, therefore there is no proof they have been having sex and they don't get trash talked. My sister was 14 when she had her first child. Yes VERY YOUNG I know. She also had her second when she was 17. Both have the same father & my sister and her bf have been together 6 years & still going. While she still manages a good job college & taking care of her babies. But she is called a slut all the time. That's not even the deff. of a slut. A slut has sex w/ everyone they see. I really don't understand.

[Jade♥]

I know, I mean, I can see the "ohh dont have sex"
but when your ready, its your life, not everyone elses.....

[nutbustington]

Teens are retarded and shouldn't be having kids. They're irresponsible and most don't have enough money to support a child on their own. Most need help from mommy and daddy or uncle Sam, which puts a burden on the taxpayers because you couldn't keep it in your pants. You'd be more knowledgeable if you lived on your own for a while and had to take care of someone and clean up all of their SHlT.

[Amanda F]

I agree with nutbust all the way. Teens THINK they got everything figured out. The case with your sister is extremely rare. I applaud the father. Most teen fathers end up being dead beats.

[Echo]

Teenagers are mentally not ready for it. There was a Dr. Phil show on this today, actually. The teenage brain is actually less formed in the judgement center than it was when you were ten.

Your sister doesn't deserve to be called a slut, true. But teens still shouldn't be having sex and babies. People don't like their teens getting pregnant because it GENERALLY screws up the kid's life.

And person above me- some teenagers AREN'T cocky sluts, you know. I'd appreciate it if you'd realize that without lumping us all in the same category. I can accept the fact people are wiser than me and that there's a reason for certain rules. So quit taking kicks at my self-esteem because of my age, thank you very much.

[♥Simply Me.]

I agree.
I have a friend whos 18, she had a baby at age 17.
Shes working full time making about 10 dollars a hour, she makes more money than half the people older than her! Shes a nursing assitant.
Shes also in school to be a nurse.
She bought her own house a couple of months ago, her OWN house with her OWN money.((Look at all the dead beats older then here who STILL live with their parents))
Plus theres the fact that the person she lives with is the father of the baby who also is in college and has a great job.


As for the haters who cares what they think! Dont mind people who dont matter! People only talk about others to make up for something they feel insecure about. I find it FUNNY.

[Squirrrel]

There are teens who have their act together, are good parents, look after their kids and provide them with a stable happy home. Unfortunately, there are also a lot of loud mouthed, slutty, know it all, Jerry Springer type teen moms, with 3 kids to different dads who give them a bad reputation. Age doesn't make you a good parent either. There are plenty of Mom's in their 20's, 30's and 40's who are bad examples of parents too.

[Tanya]

people say nowadays that it is wrong for a teen to get pregnant in other places in the world people you sisters age would be married and have multiple kids so there nothing wrong with it there are many teens who are ready to have kids but their parenst aren't ready to have grandkids

[Naomi]

I think a lot of what it has to do with is teenagers are just children themselves. I could never had taken care of a baby when i was a teenager and most teens can't. Your sister is obviously very mature for her age but the fact remains her life is much harder then it has to be. I'm not saying that she can't be happy or all that with children but why have kids when ur younger when you can wait 10 or 15yrs and establish a home and safe and constant world for a child? that way you don't have to juggle being a mom and going to school and work and all that why not just wait? like really sex isn't all that great especially when ur 14 so i don't see the point in getting all hot and bothered and end up with a child that is just going to make life harder.

[SHABUYA. <3]

I completely agree with you.

People just seem to think all teenagers nowadays are thick headed and don't know how to manage a baby of their own, maybe some might not be able to but with alot of other teens most of them can handle it.

[p17]

i couldnt agree with this more! im 17 and 7 months pregnant. i have been supporting myself pretty much since the 5th grade. most people would say &quot;pffft yeah right thats BS!&quot; but i've been earning money [legally!] since then and havent gotten any support from my parents besides paying...well basically rent. internet phone bills all that shizz is payed by me! i take and have been taking care of my 12 year old brother for quite some time now so i know what its like to take care of someone. i have also helped out at a daycare taking care of kids 9 months and on! im not &quot;using uncle sam&quot; for support in fact i have a city job and get paid pretty good. but im still looking for a second job seeing how it would just be a good idea to have the extra money with a baby coming. the father is not my boyfriend but we are still VERY good friends and beleive it or not he is 19 with a six figure job [family business].
im still going to school in fact i will be graduating early and I WILL be going to college. so not all teenager are &quot;idiots, morons etc.&quot; at my job i get people of all ages who have like 812345 children and are using government help!! so i feel it doesnt really matter what age your are at, yes some are really young like 14, but as long as you continue going to school and doing the best YOU can do to survive, even if you need help sometimes, then it doesnt matter if you are pregnant or having sex. why is it so frowned upon now when only about 100 years ago sex and marriage at a young age was expected and encouraged!?

[Zoe]

Your sister does not deserve to be called a slut. But teen pregnancy is a problem on so many levels. Teens simply are not mentally or financially ready to have their own babies. When you have a child, you need to think of their future. As a parent, you need to be worldly enough to make decisions for your child's own future. Health insurance is needed, money needs to be invested for college savings, decisions about the child's education need to be made, life insurance in case something happens to the parent needs to be handled, emotional maturity needs to develop, etc. I'm sorry but the person someone is at the age of 16 is, hopefully, a different and wiser person at the age of 28.

[Yanyan]

i hate it when people say all teen pregnancy is bad! i'm not a pregnant teen, but consider the senario people! what if they were raped? what if no one ever told them how someone gets pregnant? what if they knew their mistake, but don't believe in abortion? its not all stupid! some teens just accept their mistake and decide to take on their responsibility. some teens can be stupid, but the smart ones see their stupid mistake and turn it around to do the smart thing.

[buzymomuv3boyz]

I somewhat agree but the deal is&quot;babies having babies&quot; once you become a parent you are basically putting your life on hold until the child is grown, nobody likes to see a kid have to do that and be responsible like that during the best years of their life!! IMO

[Grace!!!]

teens are irresponsible, dont get me wrong i'm not trying to tell you lot not to have sex and i'm not saying you wouldnt be good parents but am sure most of the people on here who post things about being pregnant wish they could tun back the clock and not be pregnant, they want to have fun and be a teen for a few more years and they want a future, yehi could cotton wool wrap what i say and be all nice but loife isnt like that so i migt as well be blunt, am not gonna say well its someone else's fault they got pregnant because ts not its there fault for being so stupid

[nacho b]

Thank you. While I agree that it is rare for a situation like your sisters (or mine I got pregnant at 16) to go so well, I think it's no one's place to judge someone. Half of the girls that call them sluts are sexually active but use protection....they're just lucky their birth control hasn't failed or they wouldn't be so quick to say anything. I got the you play you pay even though we were happy and stable. Everyday I lose more and more faith in humanity and seeing how little compassion people have both online and the real world is just depressing. Hopefully your sister will be strong enough not to let what people say get to her. You should be proud.

[SWEET S]

WELL AS YOU SAID SHE WAS BABY 14 AND 17 WITH BOTH BEING TOOO YOUNG IT MEANS NOTHIGN THAT THEY ARE STILL TOOOGETTHER BABI GURL ITS NOT A GOOD LOOK IT LOOOOKKSS SLUTTYYY SAME DAD OR NOOOTTT ONLY BECAUSE SHE IS A CHILD....
IT DOES NOT MAKE HER A SLUTTT IT THE AUDIENCES ATTENTION YOU GET WHEN YOU ARE SOOOO YOUNG UNDER 18 TWO CHILDREN HELLL 1888 ISS TOOO YOUNG TOO KEEP IT REAL WITH YOURR.. SOO NIETHER OF THEM MAKES IT RIGHT NORRR CUTE
FFREE COUNTRY SPEAK AS YOU PLEASE.. YOU CANT STOPP PEOPLE FROM BEING PEOPLE..
BUT YOU CAN AVOID BEING A STATISTICS AND MAKKKINNGGG LIFE OF WIC, AND WELFARE.. THASTS YOU CAN AVOID AND KEEP FROM HAPPENING..
BE A CHILD AND THENNN AN ALDULT...
6 YEARS HAS NOTHING ON ETERNITY.
NOR SOCIETY WE ARE SUBJECT TO THINK AS WE PLEASE. AND SO ARE YOU...
BECAUSE THEY ARE STILL TOGETHER ONCE AGAIN MEANS NOTHING DOES NOT MAKE IT LOOKKK GOOD AND DOESS NOT MAKE IT OKKK.....
THEY ARE NOT MARRIED LOL SOOOO ITS STILL NOTHING TOOO BRAG ABOUUUUTTT...ITS JUST TEMPORARY. UNTIL MARRAIGE LOL...goodluck on facing the reality of things. and growing up because i know you are young and trying tooo fight this subject because of yoour sis but its not your fight and with little tooo NO knowledge off being an aldult or having a child you lose..... be there for her dont try tooo fight somethign she got herself into...
goodluck ma and goodbye

[MamaBear]

&quot;Just because you are young doesn't mean you can't take care of a child&quot;. Excuse me?!?!?! What 14 or 15 year old can pay for rent, food, clothing, transportation, insurance, doctor's fees, baby clothes AND work AND go to school at the same time? NOT A SINGLE ONE. They can't, and as a result, their parents often have to step in and take care of not only the grandchild, but the child as well. If not the parents, then the father's parents, or, in worst case scenario, you expect ME, as a taxpayer, to help take care of it with government assistance!! If you have to depend on your parents to help you &quot;take care of a child&quot;, then no, you are NOT &quot;able to take care of a child&quot;.

NO ONE should be having children unless they are in a position financially and emotionally to be able to care for it.

[love goddess]

I AGREE!! I THINK ITS WRONG TO CONDEM SOMEONE FOR DOING SOMETHING NORMAL! CHILDREN AND SEX ARE A PART OF LIFE!! EVEN IF THYE ARE 13 AND UP, IT DONT MATTER!! LIFE IS LIFE TO ME. I CANT STAND WHEN I SEE A GIRL POST A QUESTION ON HERE AND SHE GETS CONDEMED CAUSE SHES PREGNANT AND YOUNG! NOW WHEN A QUESTION LIKE THAT COMES UP, I ALWAYS SAY CONGRADULATIONS TO THE YOU PREGNANT GIRL FOR BRINGING A BEAUTIFUL LIFE INTO THIS WOLRD. I DONT CONDEM HER FOR CREATING SOMETHING BEAUTIFUL AND WONDERFUL!!! AND I NEVER WILL!!

[Beannn:)]

It's not right for ANYONE to have a child without being married. But MOST adults do understand the consequences of having sex unprotected and everything. But a lot of teens don't. Teens can't support a baby, and sometimes adults can't either. Teens need to grow up before having a child of their own. Both adults and teens are ignorant for not waiting to be married and having a child. Adults think a child could mend a broken relationship, and that's just not how it works. Teens sometimes want a kid, but don't realize how much work they are, and then they start complaining. All I hear is 'Poor teenager. I feel sorry for her, having a kid and all', When in reality, the teen is to blame.

So, really, they're both NOT okay to do. But teens are scorned more because they are kids themselves.