Males that aren't willing to have sex unless they're willing accept the responsibility of unplanned pregnancy?

[Cindy]

It seems like every man I've met are not willing to take the responsibility of unplanned pregnancy.

I know that many people choose to have sex just for pleasure, not to have kids. But it's still doesn't change the fact that they're risking for unplanned/unwanted pregnancy since no birth control is 100% effective.

It's hard for me to meet a man that's not willing to have sex unless he's willing to take a responsibility of an unplanned pregnancy.
I always use birth control.

[Mommy2Bee]

how many ways and times are you going to ask this question!!! You've goton a # of responses apparently none that you like!! The truth is you never know until it happens its just the way it is!!

[Precious]

Then don't have sex! You don't have to have sex to have a good relationship with a man. I've been using condoms for the last 5 years without one accident. If you really want to have sex, then use 3-4 forms of birth control at once.

[lockejohn91]

I agree with you. I would never want to be party to an abortion and I would not want have a kid and not be allowed to have an active role raising him.

I don't think it is right to have sex, unless we are willing to parent a baby together. I am no prude, but whenever we have sex the possibility of a baby always exists.

Thanks for bringing this up. It serves as a good reminder

[asher3620]

Birth control is the responsibility of BOTH partners. If either partner is not interested in having children at the time, the couple needs to decide on two compatible methods of birth control, example: the pill and condoms.

If you are not comfortable having sex outside of a commited relationship, then don't. You may have a very limited sex life, but it will be a rewarding one once you find a partner. There is no rule that says you must have sex in a relationship that does not meet your needs. If one of your needs is to absolutely know your partner will be there in case of a pregnancy, then don't have sex until you're sure.

A man that shares your values will respect you and offer you that kind of commitment. A man who does not share your values on such a basic level isn't exactly compatible in the first place.

[John J]

All you have to do is use birth control (the pill) and and a condom. There are so many ways to increase your chances of not having a kid to the point that it is almost 100%. The only form of birthcontrol that is 100% is not to have sex. I hope this helps.

[Pbear]

If people really wanna 'do it' that badly and risk having a child toegether, then they should get married first. Think of how many problems that would solve and how many kids wouldn't have to be orphaned. But for those who are in this hole already and can't handle taking care of the child should consider seeking help from an adoption agency.