unplanned pregnancy?

[renanatta]

Im 14 yrs old and now am 3 weeks pregnant. My mom n dad dont no. not even my boyfriend. he got one of his ex's preg b4 and he freaked he didnt pay child support and didnt do anything for the kid. hes always telling me that that baby wasnt his. but they took a test and it was. my bf isnt a good father now. when i tell him the news he'll be even worse. im not going to get an abortion. id never kill anything. and i jus cant tell my parents. im the only child and if i tell my parents its gon break they hearts. ive always been at the top. in skool ive had all A's throughout elem. i even got to skip a grade! im in 10th grade and am dating a 16 yr old. my parents always told me he was trouble and to dont spend as much time with him. but i cant do that! i love him! my parents already despise the fact that hes my bf. when they find out that hes the father of my child there gon flip! so please! please help me! what do i do? how do i tell them????? -14 and confused :(
Im not getting an abortion! Do you know what thats like. It's killing a child which i will never let anybody do. Although i may consider adoption but i dont want my child growing up without knowing who theirmother and father was.
Ok im getting some really stupid answers here about my education! if yall didnt no im in trouble i no that im not supposed to be having sex and all and this is wat i get! but what the hell does me knowing how to spell and me skipping a grade have to do with my problem here!!!!??
and about those other questions when u look at my profile, those were my aunts and my sister's friend. Don't pay any attention to those.
Ok i keep getting all these ones that is saying i though u were 8 months preg in ur last questions FOR THE LAST TIME! THAT WAS MY AUNT AND STEP SISTER'S FRIEND WHO DID THAT!!!!! THEY WERE ON MY ACCOUNT ASKING QUESTIONS BCUZ I LET THEM!! OKAY???

[shaun]

just tell them

[Sweet girl]

Everyone make mistakes. First of all you need to tell your parents because you need to see a doctor if you are knowing you are pregnant. They might be mad for awhile but get over it. But you can make a choice of giving the baby up for adoption for those waiting couples..

[kit7kat7]

you had sex. sex makes babies. in grade 10 you should know that, so how is it 'unplanned'. Tell your parents now, the earlier the better..

[♥KAtIE♥]

It's really your fault. You need to tell them, you have not other way.

[Sara]

You shouldn't have had sex in the first place, but okay. You're in a bind now. Nice job.

[orchidmg]

TELL YOUR PARENTS ASAP, GET MEDICAL CARE, TAKE VITAMINS, EAT HEALTHY AND GIVE THE BABY UP FOR ADOPTION. IT HAS THE RIGHT TO BREATH AIR, LEARN AND SMILE AND BE LOVED AND LOVE OTHERS. And don't have any more sex until you are MUCH older and possibility married and ready for motherhood.

[to0fly4u]

dont tell your parents and lose that guy. once you get older, you will realize that you dont want a guy like that in your life. you are worth so much more than that. you need to get an abortion. a child cannot take care of a child. you are only 14 and if you tell your parents that you are pregnant, they will never look at you the same. it will change your life forever. if i were you, i would go to a free clinic and get an abortion asap before the baby develops. you have up to 3 months to get one. good luck and i hope you make the right choice =)

[oracle2world]

Have you picked out some baby names yet?

[alyclark]

My cousin got pregnant at age 13.. the guy was 18.. the only thing u can do is come clean. you have to talk 2 one of your parents, the one you feel will understand more. In most cases thats the mother.. so talk to your mom and work this out. it's okay to be scared. Get your mother in your room and tell her u have something to tell her but she has to promise not to flip out. and then tell her.. tell her how ur scared and really need her right now..

[♥Mary♥]

u jus gotta tell them because even if they might be mad u r their daughter and theyll be by ur side wen the baby comes because it is gonna be their grandchild.....u gotta tell them because if u dont who else is goin to help u out in this situation??

[Amie T]

You HAVE to tell them. They are going to find out anyways once you start getting bigger. It's better to tell them now so they can help you through it and talk to your boyfriends parents. You're their only child, and I promise they won't disown you. I won't judge you for being so young and having sex, although it is a big responsibility. But you knew what you were doing and now you have to deal with the consequences. Tell your parents.

[Sky Cole]

At 14 years old you don't sound confused. You knew your boyfriends history and you still chose to have sex with him and put yourself at risk of him getting you pregnant. Now, he will probably treat you like he treated his ex. And, at 14 years old, you DO NOT know what LOVE is. The only person you need to start loving is your unborn baby and your parents who will be there for you when the boy they warned you about turns his back on you. You need to tell your parents and begin getting support from them. I was pregnant at 14 as well and I know exactly how you feel. At 16 years old, your boyfriend has only begun his life. If you are the second girl he got pregnant, then he is on a roll. He isn't done yet. I wish you luck, because you will need it.

[Brenna]

You will HAVE to tell your parents. They will have to support you, and help you with your prenatal care. There are steps you need to take to have a healthy baby. Only you can decide what to do with your child, but I would consider adoption, and again your parents will have to help you with this.

And honey, your boyfriend probably will abandon you and the baby. He doesn't love you, and you'll realize as you mature you didn't understand what love is.

You NEED HELP! TALK TO YOUR PARENTS!

[Taeli]

hey I understand this is a really scary thing to go through right now, but you'll get through it, you're a smart girl, so just tell your parents so you can get great support, and if this guy of yours is not a good father than he definitely wont be a good boyfriend for long. hope everything goes fine for you. God bless

[Natalie]

You have to tell your parents. Also your boyfriend has a right to know and you can make him pay child support by taken him to court. You should sit down with them and talk to them. Its better if you tell them then for them to find out on there own. Good luck!

[Mally Jayne]

You will have to tell them. There is no way of not letting them know. Then you can make plans for adoption if you don't feel and abortion is right for you. Second of all, get rid of that kid you are with, if you don't plan on keeping the baby then he doesn't matter at all. If you plan on keeping it, make sure you get a paternity test and get the child support. Also, how do you know you are 3 weeks along? Both my pregnancies have been planned and we didn't find out till the 6th week. 3 weeks is a little early to know you are for sure pregnant.

[DancinPrincezB]

Yu shouldn't have sex until ur married!!! You should tell your parents b4 the baby is born!!! or get an abortion!!!

[hepburncrew]

yeah get an abortion kid, its the best for everyone. it may sound bad but you got to at this age - don't tell anyone and just do it asap and dump this tool your dating he's going no where date someone clean cut and preppy that's the why to go someone that likes to sail

[Rosalinda]

You need to tell them hun, you need your parents there for you. Plus, if you dont tell them, they will find out sooner or later. Or they will think your extremely over weight but Im guessing their not that dumb :P
Good luck!
.....Rosalinda

[Ahh_Sweet_Boredom]

Just sit them down and be frank with them... You thought you were adult enough to be having sex, now you have no choice but to be adult enough to deal with this. This is just my opinion but I support the idea of adoption for kids your age, or someone in a really bad situation. Maybe you could talk to your parents about it and they could help you choose an agency and a family for your baby. I would also suggest telling your boyfriend that you're pregnant, if you decide on adoption and you know he's the father he'll have to sign the papers too.... And I think that maybe you should rethink your relationship with a boy who already has a child he doesn't take care of.

[I.P. Freely]

you skipped a grade? you can't spell. give the baby up for adoption.

[sukjunar]

The first thing to do here is telling your parents what is going on. Even though it may seem hard to tell them due to the consequences, you have to think about which outweighs the other: your parents helping you through this or taking care of your baby all by yourself (you are in 10th grade with NO JOB).

Just tell them. Soon.

[hopes24]

Wow you are amazing you mothered a daughter at 3 years old thats gosh well amazing.... you asked in a different question about your "11 year old daughter" and then two weeks ago you asked a question about labor because you were 8 mos pregnant...seriously get a life! Go play with your friends.

[Mommy in July!]

well i am 19 but my parents didn't like my boyfriend either. they didn't like him and thought he was trouble and he wasn't even my boyfriend yet. we started dating and now r havin a baby. this is the 3rd time pregnant with him and the first time he didn't want anything to do with it. i ended up miscarrying the first two so u could have the same happen and then he won't have to freak out. my parents were mad at first but i just said we r havin a baby. that was that. and eventually they got over it and are very happy to be grandparents and are very supportive. u should just give it a little more time just to make sure everything is fine and u dont miscarry. but i would tell them b4 they can just notice bc they will prolly be more mad if that happens. everything will be fine and u will get child support bc if he has a job they will take the money from his checks if he refuses to pay. but don't worry about that until way later. ur only 3 weeks and anything can happen at that little of weeks.

[Bert L]

First of all, I genuinely respect your anti-abortion view, even in this situation.
However, that is about all the consolation I can give you. Now I would strongly recommend telling your parents, they will find out anyways, of course, and if you hid from them it will be all the harder to smooth out in the end. You said your boyfriend will not pay for the child or help you in anyway, which, I'm sorry to say, makes me doubt his true motives. I would suggest confronting him and letting him know that it is his baby too and has to share the pleasure and pain. It would help to already have told your parents and have them confront him with you. I am sincerely sympathetic for you, but as a strong Christian, I cannot say I condone your having premarital sex.
-Best of Luck

[Miyuki C]

You need to tell tem girl you see if you don't they will figure any way not only that they should be with you thru thick and thin. Not only that why did you go out with someone who got another person pregnant i'm sorry but i think your still 2 young i have so many friends that got pregnant at your age but you have to realize not to give in.. i'm 14 too but i still don't give in to a guy they need to give in to you your better than that.

[the_gud_one]

Tell your parents, your doctor, guidance councilor, somebody, becuase soon you will need help. The earlier you get help, the better off you and your baby wil be.

[stonechic]

First of all, PLEASE go see the doctor to verify if you are indeed pregnant.

Second, although your parents WILL be disappointed in what has happened, TELL THE TRUTH and don't hide from it. They will find out sooner or later and if you haven't been truthful with them, it will hurt them even more. Your parents LOVE YOU and will come to deal with this and they may be willing to assist you in deciding what to do next.

If you truly want to do what is best, and if your parents will help and support you, have the baby and give it up for adoption to a FAMILY that is longing to have a child. They will offer love and support and care and if you make arrangements through a reputable agency, they may even pay your medical bills related to your pregnancy and delivery.

[Kalluh]

Believe it or not you are doing more harm than good by keeping this a secret. The first people you should tell are your parents, no matter what. At any age, being pregnant is a serious and possibly life threatening issue for both yourself or the baby. You seem like a smart girl, tell your parents, and go with their guidance from there. Of course it will be awkward and dissapointing, but they are going to figure out sooner or later, and it will be better them finding out sooner. Several millions girls fall into the same problem that you have now, but you must make the best of it. Good luck and if you want to talk please feel free to email me.(:

[Yoyoyo]

Watch Juno.

[Renae S]

U need to b straight forward and tell them.The longer u leave it the harder it will b.
As for the bf ur parents r right.If he did that to his ex what is he going to do 4 u.
U r going to need alot of support cos u r too young really to have a child.Seriously.I know u might not think so now but i was the same when i was young.

[:0):0(nismomilenko:0):0(]

You will have to tell them. You need to see a doctor to get prenatal care - if you want to keep this baby discuss it with them .His parents will need to be involved as well. I would consider trying to find a part time job if you plan to support this child and expect your life to change drastically. It would even if you were older.Don't let anyone else talk you into things abortion or adoption if that is not what YOU want and don't expect others to be involved especially that bf.But you REALLY need to see a prenatal doctor.

[annag702]

I would suggest sitting down and telling your parents what is going on right away. You might be breaking their hearts, but you're they're daughter and they'll know what's best for you. If you're feeling nervous about it maybe you could tell an older aunt, cousin, or friend first, and they could help you breaking the news to your folks. Until then, check out sites like http://www.plannedparenthood.org/ about what changes are going to happen to your body.

[McKinley]

It's okay. Whatever you do, don't do abortion even if your boyfriend says to! You should tell your parents. You may think that they'll be mad, but they'll be glad that you told them instead of lying or getting an abortion. My parents have always told me that if I get pregnant in high school, I should'nt do abortion or keep it from them. They said they wouldn't be as mad as they would if I kept it from them. They said they would be happy that I told them. Tell your parents... It may be awkward and scary, but you won't regret it after you do it! Let's look at the outcome, shall we? If you tell your parents, they'll help you through it, be accepting, appreciate your courage to tell them, tell you what to do in the "long run", and they'll do many more helpful things. The best thing you could do is tell them. They may be disappointed in you for your actions of having sex at a young age, but they'll do what they can to help you. Tell them before you tell your boyfriend because they'll tell you how you can tell him about the pregnancy. Don't tell anyone else at school because they might be rude or make gross rumors. Come out and tell your parents honestly and tell them that you're 3 weeks pregnant too. And don't be ashamed of being pregnant, be happy, because when you have the baby, my mom said that you'll never love anything more than that little baby. Don't give it up for adoption either, because my mom says that if you do, you'll never get your mind off of that baby the rest of your life. You'll wonder where it is, how it's doing, and how you could find it. Keep it, love it, live it. Best of wishes!

[hey I think you're cute]

I'm 14 too, good thing I use protection. just give them the truth, it's better that than to hide it for 9 months, baggy clothes etc. won't work. they'll eventually be happy you just told them, hey your story could be like Juno or something. Great movie watch that for inspiration!? goodluck, p.s. what are you going to name it?

[jettabrat8]

They are going to find out and will freak, but the longer you wait the worse it is. Your better off giving the baby up to a couple that can't have children. All I can say is you should have known better, he already has a kid, your just a kid, I don't understand why kids have sex when they don't realize what can happen.

[unknown fantasy]

just come out and tell then ASAP!!!!!! you need to see a doctor and plan out what you're gonna do with a child. it will also feel like a big load off your back when you tell them. at the beginning your parents will be pissed but just remember that they love you and won't hate you, it will pass. its just the thought of their little girl is pregnant. you should verify that your pregnant after you tell them.3 weeks too early anyway, but still tell them that you might be pregnant don't hide it.

Hope This Helps

[Jeff S]

just tel your parents or it will just get harder

[RHEA]

its really hard facing such kind of situation coz u really are TOO young to handle all the responsibilities that lies with it. but you have to be even stronger now coz there would be an angel who will be needing you. Tell your parents... Believe me the only person that can help you right now was them. yes they will be mad at first but a parents will always be a parents. and LEARN FROM YOUR MISTAKES... Sometimes it took us to fall and get ruined before we learn. Tell your bf your situation if he didn't want to support the baby then do it alone. it just proves how irresponsible he was. pray that God would enable you to accept things that can no longer be changed. Be brave... Love your child and do love your self. you will get through it. and this will make you even stronger after. God bless

[defyeo]

You can check for adoption or look for a family who needs a baby. Have you watch the movie JUNO?
Watch it, ul learn alot from that movie.

Goodluck, I suggest you to have a better relationship with Christ to guide you on your decision.

[Smiley01]

I have been in your situation. But the fact is that you have to tell your parents. What I did was sit my mom down and told her I had to talk to her about something important. I also told her before hand to not get mad and to not yell at me because Im really confused and I needed her. I told her that I was pregnant and she understood. She wasnt mad or anything. She said she would help with everything that I need. I was 16 at the time and that was the same time she found out I was even having sex. My mom was 16 when she had my sister so really she had no reason to be angry with me. Plus I bet your parents were kinda young when they had you because they wouldnt be so protective. Anyways you will be suprised. Most parents understand and listen to everything you want to do. Most parents will do anything for thier children no matter the situation. They love you and thats all they think about. Hope I helped. Good Luck

[George B]

Tell your parents today.

Get rid of your boyfriend. He doesn't give a damn about you, not even a little bit. If he did, you wouldn't be pregnant.

[aSh_=)]

you are gonna have to tell them sometime! just give your baby up for adoption. The longer you hide it, the more mad they will be

[ILoveMy2Girls]

when ur ready to tell them do so but in the meantime just call the doctor and make an appointment ..and DONT get an abortion it was be awful that baby deserves to live..if u have the baby and can care for the baby without giving the baby up then do it or u might regret it good luck and i hope everything works out for u!!

[ovbabies]

My dear child,

Your mind is set to have this child despite the fact that your B/F is not responsible nor reliable. Please tell your parents. They will be able to help you. Being a parent is a though cookie and you must be prepared to live what is coming your way. Please keep in mind that you have to be responsible for this child. Meaning that he will deserve the best mom ever. If I would be your mom, I would encourage you to follow your heart. But to keep on going is school and become some one so you could give your child what is best without any limitations. I am the mom of three girls and I would not want my girls to be in this situation. Please tell your parents. Don't forget that.

[Wassup]

3 weeks pregnant how do u know so soon?? that's way to early I didn't find out til I was 5 weeks and had missed my period a week earlier.

[jen0608]

Its already happened so you have to faced it...Don't think about the past think about the future...Tell your parents about it and say sorry...Parents always understand their kids...They are mad in the beginning but after that they will help you...Be strong ok...

[jen0608]

14 years old is too young for us, financially speaking, how can you survive the baby with that kind of age?