Unplanned pregnancy for newlyweds.....anyone else??

[I&JM]

My husband and I were married in early January and we recently found out that we are pregnant. (For those that disagree with the "we" statement - but I believe when you're married you share everything with husband - and therefore it's a "we" situation.)

I am 26 and my husband is 27. We both have jobs that support our current lifestyle - we own our own home, etc. However, it was quite a shock to find out that we are pregnant. I was on birth control pills and I missed one darn pill - and here we are!

We always wanted children but of course we wanted to be in a better situation. Personally, I always thought I'd have a job that offered maternity coverage - which I don't have now.

I am just very nervous about all the money and the unexpectedness. I called around on childcare today and it's $140 to $215 a week. I don't even know if it pays for me to go to back to work after the babies born. How did anyone else deal with this when they were in the same situation? Advice anyone?

[lilmama19832]

I can tell you from personal experience that when the baby is born all these worries will go away and you be so happy. Some parents like me that planned on going back to work actually wait a year or two. Hope i helped.

[Kattimus Maximus]

Welcome to my life :)

My hubby and I aren't exactly newlyweds (it'll be 2 years in August), we're both 24, own our home, and are both employed. We, too, wanted kids, but not so soon... and here I am, 8 weeks along at home on short term disability because of my physically demanding job.

I understand the nervousness about all of the same things, but all the advice that I can give is this:

Relax. Take your time to see what options you have, and get in touch with HR at your job about insurance and FMLA. Things will work out somehow. Sometimes you just have to accept the Tao of life... go with the flow and be flexible.

Best of Luck for a Happy and Uneventful Pregnancy!

[meagan]

I am going through the exact same thing, my husband and I were married in July we both knew that we wanted more children(I have one from another relationship) but we decided it'd be best to wait. Well the day after christmas we got a positive test!! I am now thinking about what to do after and daycare for 2 children will be 1500 per month. Not nearly worth going back to work.
I am going to look into some other things like house cleaning, or baby sitting so I can still bring in an income but don't have to work a 9-5.

Good luck and congratulations!

[silvereyes3106]

my husband and i will be married for 2 years in may so we're not so much newlyweds but somewhat. we're pregnant with our first - i too missed one darn pill and here we are! we wanted to wait until i was at least 25. i'm only 20 & he's 22. but, together we own our home, we both work, well he's in the army and is deployed for the next 13 months. it was a total surprise but we're both so elated for our little bundle of joy that all those worries just kinda go away. sometimes im a little upset that we're having our first this early, because we werent done living our early years together, we had all these plans of vacations and buying our first harley davidson together when he comes home, and now, good bye lavish vacations, goodbye harley davidson lol. its sucks in it's own way but then again, the little person inside me fills my heart with joy every time i feel him move, every time i see him on ultrasound, when i hear his little heartbeat, when i walk into his nursery that is already put together waiting for him.
it might change for you when you start feeling him and start growing that belly, that's when it actually "hit" us. either way, you'll be fine.

[jen0608]

Unexpected pregnancies in newlyweds would be nicer, especially today, you're married, rather than having a live-in partner...

[cplordbyron]

I can tell you from personal experience that when the baby is born all these worries will go away and you be so happy. Some parents like me that planned on going back to work actually wait a year or two. Hope i helped.

i don't like this doers thing..