why dont my parents want me to communicate with this guy?

[Randy]

i have a friend that im communicating with by myspace and instant messenger, anyways i met him at a mall one day here in PA, and we exchanged emails,

anyways my parents saw his page (i use my dads computer and they found his URL)
anyways they began questioning me about him and where he came from, and they asked me why was i communicating with this guy

and they told me not to talk to this guy again, and if i did i would get grounded and punished, im only 15 almost 16

why do you think my parents dont want me to talk to this guy?
they told me that they really dont like his page and the way he expresses himself, but i dont think he says anything really bad in his page

please help

heres tha URL
http://www.myspace.com/arielbraverman

[andrea m]

He uses swear words in the "about me" section, and he's holding something that looks like a beer bottle.

[OK]

He is probably a pervert. Your parents want to protect you appreciate them.

[Nette]

Meeting a stranger in a Mall that you met on the Internet?
Geeze. I'd be worried TOO if I were your parent.
How many newspaper articles or TV shows do you need to watch about Child Predators, or hear about women getting hacked up and locked in storage containers, from people they meet on the net? Get a clue kid.
There's nothing wrong with chatting with people on IM, but you don't give out any personal info, you don't meet them in some mall, or club, and you don't assume someone is nice and cool because of their myspace info.

[brembo]

I cant open myspace, always have problems with their site. Maybe your parents are just concerned and trying to protect you because you're too young to enter a serious relationship and they don't want you to get hurt. How old is this guy, anyway? If you can't stop yourself from seeing him again, always inform someone that youre going to meet him and other important details just in case anything happens. I'm not saying he's a bad guy, I just want you to be cautious

[rjohnson442000]

For starters, he's 18 (adult) and you're 15(underage). Next, he's a drinker, illegal at his age and most definitely the same for you. I'm sure there's more but I don't want to spend my Easter on myspace, (ugh). If I can see this much at a glance, there's definitely a lot more under the surface.
You probably don't see it but your parents can see this train wreck coming like an atom bomb. Trust their judgment on this one. They're actually protecting you.

[Chris OE]

If you're interested in the parents' point of view, you don't really know this guy. You met him online, but there's loads you can't know about him because you don't know his friends, his parents, his school, his rep, etc. like you would know about a kid at your own school.
If you met a guy who was a senior in high school and he was hanging around with freshmen what would you think? All the guys I knew that hung out with kids much younger were looking to get something from them, or looking to get them to do something for them. They weren't looking for friends, they were looking for followers.
My sister dated a guy in high school where the age difference was like this, and he put her through a wringer. He didn't date girls his age, because he wouldn't have the power over them that he did over her.
I'm sure your parents are worried about what he might be able to talk you into doing. If you really want to be friends with this guy, talk to your parents about maybe meeting his parents, or at least talking with them on the phone. He writes like he's a badass on his site, but it could be he's a perfectly okay guy who's just showing off/talking big. Talking to his parents might put your parents at ease about it, and if he really is okay that is one way to show them. You could make a plan to write an email together explaining the problem to him and asking him to send his parents' phone number. If he sends it, things might turn out okay for everybody. If he refuses you'll know he was planning something he didn't want the light of day shone on.

[Helen B]

Well he does use a lot of vulgar words and puts junk up that is anti-american like the Hitler and Binladen junk but most teenagers do that i think to look tuff.Actually makes a bad impression and makes people think he is disrespectful and not sure if he is straight or gay either, with all his referances to his a-- and all.Why does he use the ''F'' word all the time? and complain when people are negative and he calls them ''Haterz''

[asaro91]

Hate to break it to you but your parents are always right believe me i should know.
At the end of the day they are only protecting you , be grateful they care about you.
You are better off listening to your parents after all they are not saying it to be malicous but becuase they care!

[sirvine64]

This guy is a big time LOOSER.
That's real obvious to us parents, and if you think it through clearly enough it will be clear to you as well.
He may or may not grow up enough to be a descent human being, but your parents have a responsibilities to try and keep a creep like this guy away from you.
I strongly disagree with a lot of our foreign policy.
But to list people like Hitler and Bin-Laden As people he admires shows a tremendous amount of misplaced and manufactured anger and extremely poor judgment.
He's a young punk stomping angrily through life with no real reason to be angry.
Your parents love you, Trust Them!!!!